As the title suggests, I am returning to Cuba in 40 short days. I seriously have very mixed emotions this time around, I have been out of the country and often times I am reading Jorge's emails and just ignoring them. Super bored of the repetoire of questions he asks which he doesn't even care for the answers.
Maybe this blog will be cut short, or the vacation feels are finally over that I have nothing new to report or even have anything of interest to discuss. I still don't understand how others can fall in love and marry their Cuban lovers in a matter of months, isn't it a little scary to be diving into a lifelong commitment with someone you barely know?
I think reality outweighs romance at this part of my life, I'd much rather focus on improving on myself than trying to figure out whether someone is genuine or not. And I'm a little to selfish to take any risk that would jeopardize the future I have envisioned for myself. I guess what I'm trying to say is, for the men or women that are perusing the internet for Cuban love stories - passionate love affairs are for the most part shortlived. If your Cuban lover is good with words and good at putting in effort to maintain that spark, you're lucky and unlucky. I'm glad Jorge is not gifted in this sense because I can't imagine the emotional turmoil one must go through the keep this 'forbidden love' alive and thriving. I guess it goes to show the laws of attraction works relatively the same in all countries, it really takes two people who share common grounds and interest in one another for it to truly work.
I'm excited to go back to vacation and who knows, give me more material to update this blog afterwards? All I know is I feel the most free when I am in paradise - but no one can live in paradise forever.
Hi Joie! Thank you for writing this blog. I just wanted to let you know that we are basically the same person! I’d like to share my story because like you I have a Sam and can’t tell anyone about the Cubano. I met a baseball coach in Bayamo recently. He asked me to dance at the Saturday night street party and honestly I was so excited to meet a guy my age. We stayed up late smooching and learning curse words in the park. I went to my casa alone (go me!) that night as I was planning to leave the next day and he asked to meet me in the morning to walk me to the bus station. The next day the cadeca was closed and I didn’t have enough CUC for the trip so we hung out in Bayamo, mostly drinking rum in the park. On Monday, I invited him to spend the week with me exploring Cuba even though I have a long term on again off again boyfriend. I really don't know why. I guess my imagination ran wild with the idea of a taboo US/Cuba relationship. He introduced me to his family and talked about getting married and having babies- I, of course, confronted him on just wanting the leave Cuba which he desperately wants to do. Who says that stuff after knowing someone for 48hours! By the end of the week he asked me to leave my cellphone with him so that he could keep in contact (which I didn’t do) and curiously never gave me back the change after he used my money to pay for things. I wanted to spend time with him so paying for things and turning a blind-eye to him keeping some of the money did not phase me at the time but now I feel like I bought his companionship. All of the horror stories on the internet lead me to believe that I was a job to him but a little part of me likes to think that it’s like Pretty woman and I’m Richard Gere, you know? Accept I didn’t know he was a puto and we didn’t actually fall in love- but pretending is nice! Either way I’m scouring the internet for posts about Cuban/Yuma relationships in hope of justifying a trip back (only God knows why) and I really appreciate your blog!
ReplyDeleteHi!!! Haha welcome to the strange world of a 'relationship' with a Cuban :O I feel like we might just like thrill of a different kind of relationship, since we're so used to the long term relationships back in our own world. Totally relating to your pretty woman analogy, haha or dirty dancing applies too! I've been back to Cuba three times already - the fourth trip coming up soon, I don't think there's ever a sane reason to justify why we go back...I've given up a long time ago to make sense even to myself, do what you think is right and of course whether it's financially feasible - the worse thing is to dig yourself into a debt over something you're not sure about. Just see it as a relaxing vacation, and enjoy yourself on this strange journey! Be skeptical and open at the same time? Haha that's my motto when I get overwhelmed! Stay tuned for more posts coming up, 30 days till I'm back in beautiful Cuba!
DeleteI 100% agree. I can barely understand what he is saying, he is nothing like the guys i'm attracted to in the states, and yet, i'm looking at tickets to go back and see him. I know it is fake and I don't even care. It's fun. I can only hope that he is down there as infatuated with the idea of me as I am with the idea of him. I am excited to hear how it goes when you return. If i go back i'm definitely going to be more skeptical but hopefully I will have an even better time. I'd hate to tarnish our meeting with a second shitty fling!
ReplyDeleteCubans are a "rare breed". I don't want to generalize but, they have a completely different "understanding" of love and relationships than most of us Westerners. I've often said that they can fall in and out of love as quickly as they change their underwear!! So, it's not really strange for them to be talking about marriage and kids within a few days. I wouldn't, necessarily be wary of that. However, I would be very wary of anyone asking you to leave them your cell phone. That, is very likely a sign of someone on the make.
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